Overcoming Betrayal – MKMMA Week 10

mirror.jpgWell… they say that confession is good for the soul so I’m here for a clean slate. So there was this guy that I knew. I’ve known him for as long as I can remember though I can’t say that I knew him well at all. He’s one of those guys that has always been there but tended to fade more into the background so he was never really front and center in my mind.

One thing that kind of struck me about him was that he seemed to have quite a lot of potential. I remember hearing from him about ideas that he had and plans for the future. He always had some sort of project on the go or a goal in mind. I always liked hearing about this sort of stuff, actually. His ideas were always pretty interesting. Here’s where the problem came in, though…

I was not a very good friend to him. You know how friends are always supposed to look out for you? They are supposed to help you along and support you? Well, that’s not how I acted.

Honestly, looking back, it was a little more like sabotage. There were times that I would shoot him a look and actually talk him out of dreams and goals that he had. Sometimes I would keep him up late on the computer even though he had important meetings the next day. When he had important projects to work on I would often distract him with games or other things that would just waste his time. Since I knew him from when we were kids I would sometimes bring up old memories of things that he had messed up. I remember one specific time where he was trying to focus on his health and I even went so far as to keep a bunch of junk food in the cupboards to tempt him with and when he was tired I even talked him out of a few of his workouts. These things sound terrible, I’m sure, and they are only a few examples. There are many more.

Honestly, I’m not even sure why I did those things. Part of me, a big part, really wanted for him to succeed… For some reason, though, I just kept holding him back.

Here’s the good news… I’ve gotten to know him better. In fact, we’ve started to make a real connection. More than ever I want for him to become all that he can be. I’m doing everything that I can to help him now. No longer am I sabotaging his efforts. We’re working as a team now and it’s great.

So who was the guy that I was working against those many times? Well, it was actually my future self. It’s hard to believe, but studies have actually shown that when people think of their future self their brain activity is as though they are thinking of a stranger. As a result, because of this disconnect, we can often make choices that will make life harder for ourselves tomorrow, or next week, or next month or next year. When you start to connect with your future self, though, everything changes.

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You no longer want to sabotage that person. You are no longer willing to steal from your future self in order to make today a little easier or a little more comfortable. You naturally start wanting, and doing, what is best for your future self. It’s a beautiful thing, really.

do-something-today-that-your-future-self-will-thank-you-forSo how about you? How do you relate to your future self? How are you treating your future self? Do you offer yourself the same kindness, compassion and generosity that you offer to everybody else? I certainly hope so because there’s one thing that I know for sure…

That person that you see in the mirror…

They can deserve and appreciate every kindness that you can give them.

Cheers to your success ~ Daniel

 

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25 thoughts on “Overcoming Betrayal – MKMMA Week 10

  1. Suzanne

    Wow, Daniel. I was told by another MKMMA member to check out your blog. Now I can see why she recommended it.

    What a powerful post. I can relate so well to everything you posted – the late nights, the snacks, talking yourself out of workouts. I am so glad you are improving your relationship with your future self, as we all are. Congratulations on your progress!

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  2. masterkeybritta

    REading it, felt really bad at first – then I was relieved you didn’t do it to someone else – then I was shocked to be relieved. Thank you great post again!

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    1. Daniel Hanscom Post author

      Thanks, Masterkeybritta. Funny how we can accept seeing somebody treat themselves in a way that we wouldn’t want to see them treat another person. Or that we would treat ourselves in a way we wouldn’t treat another for that matter…. Thanks for commenting and glad that you enjoyed the post!

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  3. mkmmaasambush

    Another great post! I heard what they were saying in the webinar about treating your future self like a friend, but I didn’t really “get” it until I read this post of yours. Thank you so much!

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  4. Life Of Charisma

    Daniel, you are well talking about all of us, haha. I admire you for acknowledging how you have treated your future self. That only means you are really on the making to making miracles happen! May you be blessed more and be a blessing to others! =)

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    1. Daniel Hanscom Post author

      Thanks for the comment Life Of Charisma. Yes, we’ve all stolen from our future self at some point. The sooner we realize and admit it the sooner we can build an even better future. Cheers

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    1. Daniel Hanscom Post author

      Thanks, Masterkeymartin! Yes, as I posted it was my hope that people would read to the end rather than stopping part way through and thinking I was a negative jerk… Glad you read to the finish.

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    1. Daniel Hanscom Post author

      Glad you enjoyed it, MasterKeyShirley. Thanks for stopping by and for your comment!
      PS: I love that you used the word “allegory” in your comment… That’s an underused word. I like seeing it taken off the bench wherever possible.

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